“Parenting is a constant battle between going to bed to catch up on some sleep or staying awake to finally get some alone time”.
So the main reason I am writing this is because I have been peanalised for “going out too much” by a few people on Instagram. Don’t worry, I didn’t let it bother me, I blocked them and decided to write this blog post instead!
I personally feel that mum’s having time to themselves is the most important thing. It can be a cuppa tea in bed by themselves, getting a hair cut, a night off or even a vacation. No matter what you do, you need to make time for yourself. If you aren’t feeling yourself how are you going to be the best person you can be for your family.
I have recently started to make sure I have more time for myself, I make plans to see friends a lot now and I feel much better for it. Since finding time for myself I have found myself a lot less stressed. Don’t get me wrong I stress constantly, if I’m with Lennon or not. He makes me stressed but the moment I’m not with him I stress about him. I trust the people I leave him with (obviously or I wouldn’t leave him) but just being a mum makes you worry.
Since Lennon has been going to nursery I feel that he is a lot happier too, he is getting time to himself in an environment that stimulates him better then I ever could at home. He is allowed to play with 98% of the things in the room so he won’t be getting told “No!” all the time like he does at home.
The main thing to do is not feel guilty, I struggle with this still now! I always have terrible mum guilt, don’t we all. I will be planning my mum free time and then planning what I will do to make it up to Lennon.
The time I do spend with Lennon now is a lot more precious, he has become such a mummy’s boy since we spend a bit more time apart. It could be because he misses me but it could also be because he genuinely loves me a bit more for being happier.
This doesn’t just go for single mums like me, just being a mum in general is super hard work and I applaud everyone for doing it. Just think, they aren’t going to remember everything that they do when they are young so don’t worry about them being lonely. They haven’t been left alone and in fact they are probably having just as much fun. So make sure you are happy so you can keep the good memories for yourself.
How do you spend your Mum free time? Comment below.
“There is no way to be a perfect mother, but a million ways to be a good one”